Divorce or death of a close: how to survive?

People are moving away from our lives for various reasons, and the divorce from her husband, according to psychologists, is comparable to his death on the strength of experience. Longing for the departed person sometimes spills over into a depression, which can cause serious health troubles. But what to do, because we can not just turn off and grief?
You can live with a sense of loss every day for a long time. And it is possible to cope with this heavy load, performing simple guidelines experimental psychology.

Set out your pain on paper.   It's not just about the pen and a notebook, and will fit the typewriter and the computer, and even a voice recorder. People often keep journals in which to share their experiences. Their beneficial effects on the psyche more than once confirmed by doctors. We must try to express in writing or verbally the feelings that you are full, and it will help reduce the level of stress .

Listen only to your heart. Neither friends nor sister, nor wise Tatiana from the third floor, not even your own psychologist (and including us) will not be able to tell you exactly how it is necessary to experience the loss and grieve. But of course, this does not mean that all these people have to turn away. Friends, relatives, colleagues or a priest want to help you. They need you to continue to eat, drink, sleep, go to work and live. True, at times to communicate with them, your grief even more driven into the depths of the heart, instead of gradually over time to leave. Therefore, most of the time you had better be alone, at least for the first phase (one to two weeks).

But in the second stage it is recommended sink into routine . A few weeks learned from your usual work and life schedule can break the whole rhythm of life. Moreover, it was not a vacation, but a deep psychological stress . Try not to stay in this state and go back to work, friends, familiar pastime for you. And more often be in nature, more than you walk. Even if the rain on the street, then take the umbrella and go for a walk.

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