"Fall off the horse, so to raven" - said my wise mother. For the correct start of sexual activity, it needed. Not just any pretty boyfriend, persistent gentleman, and not even the most beautiful boy in the class, which all the girls dreamed. He - a Romeo for Juliet, Tristan to Isolde, Orpheus for Eurydice.
It happens in our lives only once. That is the only time longing, fear, lust, curiosity create an explosive mixture. First sexual intercourse can become magical and can bring only disappointment and disgust.
Unfortunately, the first sex can not only like it, but to be really dangerous. To obtain gonorrhea, syphilis, or HIV infection, only one times. Do not be fooled by "decent" view of a young man. In order to carry HIV and hepatitis, not have to be a drug addict. Even a nice young man from a good family, it may be a questionable one-time experience of the consequences of which he does not even know.
Rule №1. Take your time. Make sure that it is the person with whom you're ready to share your first time. Ideally - you do not mind to educate children with him and support in grief and joy.
Rule № 2. Do this in good faith, being of sound mind and memory. It is not necessary start having sex While under the influence of alcohol, drugs, coercion and blackmail under the influence ("you love me - prove", "if you do not give, I would be very hurt"). Such situations should be avoided by refusing to questionable companies and entertainment.
Rule № 3. Move from theory to practice. For a successful sexual debut should take some time to enhance their education. Some ideas about human anatomy and physiology can be obtained in high school. On what problems may arise, should know before onset of sexual activity that would take all necessary measures to prevent them.
Actually, the first sexual experience, and for many, many years, there will be two problems: genital infections and unwanted pregnancy.
Explore the possibility of the symptoms, it is necessary knowledge. A condom - the only effective barrier against sexually transmitted infections, use of condoms during each sexual contact from the very beginning to the very end. Take care rules putting condoms on bananas porepetiruyte and carry condoms with them. This good habit could one day save your life.
Be sure to keep a menstrual calendar start. This is not a whim of gynecologists, is a harsh necessity.
Rule № 4. Get rid of illusions. Remember, the issue of protection from unwanted pregnancy, it is solely a women's issue. Under no circumstances can not be trusted with your life and your future to someone else. Even in the most optimal variant if an unwanted pregnancy ends marriage and childbirth, it is far from a happy ending. Marriages "by aerial" very rarely happy, unplanned births will change not only your life but the lives of your loved ones. Whatever decision was taken, it will affect your life. That woman the risk of infertility, making abortions. This woman may die, nurturing pregnancy and giving birth to an unwanted child. That woman will be a single mother, if the happy family life does not work out. Coitus interruptus does not protect against pregnancy! The younger the woman, the higher her chances of getting pregnant.
Rule № 5. Learn how to separate the wheat from the chaff. On the Internet you will find a sea of conflicting information. From prevention through "safe days" and slices of lemon to the long and angry opus about the dangers of hormonal contraception. Learn to look for reliable information, do not hesitate to ask questions, to compare the answers, decide whose opinion is trusted. It is possible, you will find many fine doctors who will be able to find a moment or two to share with you the knowledge. Quite possibly, you will begin to recognize the evil trolls from the first line of the message and do not take for granted all that is excavated in the network.
Rule № 6. Prepare a path of retreat. Take care to advance the search for a physician to whom you can come running on internal reception. Obviously, you may need a gynecologist often - infection, pregnancy diagnosis, selection of a contraceptive method, bursts of "paranoia" doubt. It all starts as soon as the dare "to start."
Rule № 7. Create conditions. Let your first time to be romantic, tender, memorable. You should have enough time to take the time. The place should be quite secluded and comfortable, what would help you relax. The ability to take a shower is also very important.
If you feel old enough to start adult life - there is no objection. But be prepared for what adulthood - is the adult problems. Ready? Welcome!
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